Monday, December 10, 2012

dearest | 3days

its hard to put it in words

as my descriptive skills are really bad....

but what i went through from last friday till sunday

are the three days that bring me a lot of joy..

driving back the whole journey from klang to taiping~

spending time with all 20++ close relatives of mine for 3 days~

full preparation and dress up for HELP prom night~

the food, the people, the prince, a bunch of good friends of mine~

it is so powerful that im able to not thinking about bad events in that 3 days~

the theme of the prom this year is "FAIRY TALES END"..

since we are going to graduate soon, bye bye to the sweet university life

and face the cruel society

we did enjoy our last moment in the prom.....

and that particular moment, are really full me up with excitement until now....

thank you~ 

*with love ~

Saturday, December 1, 2012

《阳光姐妹淘》

阳光姐妹淘

一部韩剧,下午无意间下载来看
看着看着,会联想到未来的自己,还有我的朋友们

故事讲述一个家庭主妇,把时间全奉献给了丈夫女儿,
甚至于忘了以前的自己是怎样的。。
一天探望医院里的妈妈时,经过看到一个喊叫在治疗的末期癌症病人
原来,是中学时时期难忘的其中一个姐妹们

由七人组成的姐妹淘,
老大就是那末期大姐,
希望临死之前能找到另外的六人
慢慢的,一个一个找到了
人人都过着不一样的生活,有好的有不好的
故事的最后,是六人在大姐的灵位面前聚在一起
大姐把巨大的遗产留给了需要的姐妹们
帮助他们度过了难关

我也有一群疯狂的好朋友们
未来的日子没人能预测得到
我们会变成什么样子无人能知
可是想到几时年后,
当我们带着自己的另一半和孩子
诉说大家这几年来是怎样过的
嘻嘻哈哈不必顾及仪态的
继续的谈天开玩笑
我觉得,这会是生命其中一个值得庆祝的事。。






Saturday, November 24, 2012

忆 | 老师

老师大约五十岁, 膝下无儿女, 与先生住在我家后面
她是我第三个钢琴老师
当初老师因为有病在身所以本来不再收学生
但看在我爸认识他先生而多收了我这个气死她的懒惰学生..

她家里总是有种安宁的气氛,
要不是钢琴声, 要不就是完全没有声音的..
我们在楼下一个小房间里,
钢琴摆在正中央
外面就是我们做作业的桌子
椅子上堆了像山一样高的所有音乐的书
字典, 作业, 很多年前的宝贵琴书等等.....

我们弹时, 老师会跟着节奏拍手,
有时也会哼着唱
当我们要考试时, 我特别喜欢老师弹奏一小段
然后我们必须唱和说出歌曲的性质等等..

我们都很喜欢古典音乐
有一次聊到了这一点, 我们还互相交换唱片

当我被转到她那里是
虽然到了那个级别, 但是却没有达到那个级别的实力..
老师不气馁的, 加倍的训练我..
有时候虽然她没骂出声但可以感觉到她的那股火
加上失望..
所以过后也改掉了明天学琴今天才练习的坏习惯
天天弹一点, 终于老师笑笑说有进步了~

这句我等了许久的话, 老师终于说出口了
她还说, 有练习没练习她是会听得出的.......
被称赞了, 当然有那股冲动去练习多了 ~

过后, 也忘了为什么停了.... 就没再去老师那里了..
直到, 那天...
因为她家里只有她和华生校长
搭棚, 意思是说, 他们其中一个.....
后来妈妈打电话来说, 老师一年前被诊断出患有肺癌...
两夫妇都没抽烟习惯竟然得了肺癌?
华生校长是二叔的旧同学
所以姑姑们就代替在柔佛的二叔出席, 妈妈也是...

现在, 希望华生校长可以接受老师已离开的事实..
因为, 神更爱老师.... 把她带到了它身边...

老师,
虽然我们的相处只有几年的时间
但是,
您的恩典, 您的教导...
我永生不忘....
真的谢谢你不放弃我, 才让我有更好的机会提升自己.....



Sunday, November 18, 2012

Cherish of life

It is a process. Two people start knowing each other, building up a friendship, after deep understanding they become heart-to-heart best friend; if both have mutual liking feeling the friendship develop into a love relationship; at the end, if it succeed, together they hold hands and step into a marriage. A wedding.

It is not an easy action. In between, how many barriers this two peoples have to go through. The most important part is, are they able to adapt to each other, the good part and the weird style among each other? It is the matter of getting along with each other. Both share the moment of joy, both share the moment of sorrow. When arguments happen, the willingness to tolerate, and not to win in the argument, but to end the argument. Can both of them take this argument as a potential to discover more among themselves? Or one only want to win and eventually lose the relationship?

It is not an easy action. Every human are special, we label each human as "individual", individual as in you cannot find a clone in this world that exhibit 100% characteristics as you are (unless scientist invented the technique of cloning  . Squeeze into each other's life requires ultimate patience and love, the potion that provides you power towards any resistance and issues when both encounter problems. 

Hence, i always cherish a new marriage. It symbolize a brand new stage of life. And luckily, i have a big circle of relative where almost every end of the year there are wedding ceremony, especially now where most of my cousins are getting into this stage. From the transition of childhood where we are playmates, and now i witness both of the couple holding hand together on the stage, and having children of their own, it feels like a miracle in life. 

Little babies and children are so innocent, laugh and play according to themselves without worrying of being look down (unless too naughty and get scolded by parents laa). Sometimes, their little movement actually can touches your heart..

Recently our big sister just give birth to a baby girl. She is just two months old and in this three days i was spending time with her a lot. The moment where the little hand grasp my finger, it is just a very tiny soft hand, but with a big strength of her, hold so tight for a few minutes until the moment she let go her hand, the whole palm of her is red in colour. I feel so amazed by her willpower of holding tight things that she wants, of not letting it go. Most crucially, I feel warm and touched by her grasp. When she turn and smile to you, it is the little angle that is smiling.

mini Leong ~

Marriage - a new chapter of life. A new beginning. 

 children - the gift of God

And for me, this two events are my major happiness in my life~~

* congratulation for big sis for delivery a baby girl - Mini Leong ^^
* congratulation for my cousin sister for the new marriage ^^
i hold them when they are small, and now from babies they are big girls already ^^












Tuesday, November 13, 2012

自闭姐姐

是我不会融入大家了。。

是我不会与大家沟通了。。

是我的问题,不是其他人的问题。。

为什么会被误会。。

哑口无言。。

自闭吗?

应该是。。

久了,反而变成了害怕沟通。。

到底几十才可以恢复正常。。

Sunday, November 11, 2012

annoying midnite mosquito attack

4.40am

so damn sleepy due to sleep deprivation for a few days

was asleep around 2am, but being awaken now...

stupid annoying mosquito..............

superb sensitive to mosquito bites

and need to wrap my body with blanket to avoid mosquito

as a result, kinda hot actually...

and ichy

den, kenot sleep d!!

annoying....

ish....

Thursday, November 8, 2012

无奈

我只能

把自己

慢慢的疏远

只能

这样

。。。

时间到了

就会回来了

。。。

Thursday, September 20, 2012

of LOVE | FRIEND


~ About LOVE

"You need to learn to love yourself more, before you want to learn to love others"

I have been thinking for this phrase, uttered from a friend of mine before we said goodbye infront of Pavilion.

I have been always longing for a partner (thick face XD)

But the reality is, did i really know how to manage myself before i even engaged myself into a r/s?

Am i capable, qualified, knowledgeable, rational enough to handle the r/s?

Then i was shock,

Because the answer is all NOs.......

~ I realize my way of thinking and perceiving issues are not mature enough (childish betul T.T)
~ I realize i not yet solve my "unfinished business" which will (might) influence a r/s indirectly
~ I realize, i didnt have the basis of communicating with guys properly as in how to be "peace" and behave properly (might ended up fighting everyday)
~ I realize, i might be dependent on others if people provides care for me (which i dont want to because i want to be INDEPENDENT)

~ About FRIENDSHIP

Recently i have a good midnight talk with a close friend of mine, of which the conversation made me relief and i finally able to let go the full grasp of my fingers after sooo many years. 

Why force myself so hard during the past few years? Why i suffer so much because i want to be other's people best friend? Why ?

I started thinking all this issues during my one month semester break.... 

I realize, i didnt love myself AT ALL....

I realize, i didnt have a proper plan of my life.......

I realize, i still have many aspects of myself that is not sufficient to excel or

able to survive in this society when i graduate and work in the future...

Thus, few days before, after the conversation, i think and think and think....

I want to achieve my plans...

I want to focus more on myself rather then focusing on other things that are not important..

I will try my BEST to adjust my attitude that,

"Friends, that are meant to be urs, will turn to u eventually
that there are no point for u to keep forcing urself to be theirs...."

I want to improve myself before i said i want to engage in a r/s...

Although i will (am) feel lonely when seeing my friends with their pair

But i will take this period of time to change myself into a better one....

I want a healthy, productive, good-ending ^^ relationship

With a mature ways of handling a r/s, and a happy romantic life (hehhehe ^^)



~~ THE END ~~














Friday, August 17, 2012

No Title post


One of the theory in psychology said that:

"human need to achieve some particular aspects, in that particular life stage, in order to achieve balance and move on to the next stage"...

i agreed of that~

Nothing seems to satisfy me anymore in this stage of life

What i want, is just that particular thing~~

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Mummy's big day

Mum's Birthday

Few days back, one of my mum's ex-colleague message me in Facebook, telling me she's thinking to give my mum a surprise in her birthday. Both of us are planning, and finally the day has come.

Roughly around noon time, my sis was upstairs, i was downstairs together with mum watching her soup drama... Mei sis text me that she's gonna reach within 15 minutes, that i need to let my mum to be upstairs only, she can pass me the cake from the back door. Quickly me and my sis did stupid things, Viber each other inside the house. I told my sis no matter how also mum need to be upstairs.

* The most crazy thing is, i was sitting on the floor and my sis was sitting on the sofa behind me. To prevent mum from knowing what we are planning few days back, both of us Viber each other!

Mei sis reached. My sis shout from upstairs asking my mum to bring the soup to her, but due to my mum was so into the drama she couldn't leave the sofa. Plan failed. Sis viber me that she dont know what to do.

I said," u say la u dont feel good, pretend to be sick" and sis reply me :" hello, im sick okie" that i reli forget she is sick that time. Then suddenly house phone rang i got so relief, sis said its a call for mum. Quickly i went to the back and open the door and took the cake, trying to minimize the door sound. Took the cake to the room downstairs, and start to prepare all.

Mei sis drove her car and came in through the front gate. Mum got surprise she suddenly came without telling her. I pretend to take things (in fact i want to take the mancis in the living room). Than i came out with the cake and we sang "happy birthday" song to mum.. After the "mini gathering" only we confess everything. That the phone call which no body answer once my mum pick up, is from my sis!! Haha all of us laugh so hard! Sis, brilliant! ^^

Really appreciate what Mei sis did for us. Thank you Mei sis!! ^^

* this colleague of my mum, she's roughly like me... Our personality... She doesnt act like an adult, she's like a kiddo and they way she talks is cute and funny and friendly ^^ She said, her husband said taking care of his wife is like taking care of his children haha ^^ But due to her special personality, and her kind heart that she spend most of her time on charity work, that's the reason i click to her quite much ^^ When she's young she's really a pretty girl (now also pretty la) ^^





Saturday, August 4, 2012

OFF | THAT"S IT

This is a post of silence
I dont wanna talk 
I dont wanna mingle with people
I dont wanna communicate with people

I am tired of going with other people's mood
Other people's attitude when they talk
Other people's mind
Without thinking of how their listener feel
When they just talk what they like
Insulting, criticizing, scolding
In front of you
Behind of you

The world is so complicated
People stab you behind of you
People talk bad behind of you
People don't care a single thing about other people
Except themselves
People hurt other people to gain pleasure

One, i can accept
Two, barely, i can still accept
Three, comes together, i am using one hand hanging on the rope
Four
Its when i will explode

The extend of four
I would like to shut and off ALL
the relationship i have with
ALL the people in my CURRENT circle
and continue my life elsewhere
in this earth

I am have enough.

THE END.

Friday, August 3, 2012

My dreams

Sometimes i will dream
Dream about my future
I want to go to oversea and pursue my career
I want to become a researcher, a social psychologist, a social worker
In there, i will face a lot of challenges
Culture shock, language barriers, climate changes
But its alright
Because i want to create something
Something that comes from me
I want to escape from this current environment
Where i find it sad and heart broken 
From my friends and people beside me.....

Sometimes i will dream
Silly dream haha
I am going to marry someone who is not a Chinese
A westerner, perhaps
An interracial marriage
Our offspring will be cute and 
I will love them with all my heart
That's the family that i am going to build
A family that full of 
Love, respect, responsibilities and commitment

Sometimes i will dream
I will dream that i am on my way to achieve both of my dreams
Of course
There are many many more that
I am not able to list here as
Because there is nothing left for me to achieve here

Hence, i will make the dreams
Comes true
In this reality
I want something special
Something different
Something extraordinary
To put some colours in
My dull life
I want to proof to those people that keep looking down at me
That me, 
I am,
Also
Capable of
Making the dreams comes true!

I am tired of this meaningless life
I am tired of being alone all the time
I am tired i am always the one being step down
I am tired of people underestimate me

I will
Make all my dreams happen~~

Thursday, August 2, 2012

加油!

知道你不开心

在远方的我爱莫能助

你又不愿打开心结

怎么帮你呢?

希望你一切顺利

加油!!

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

夜里的一篇短文章



以下的内容, 都是本作者夜里的思绪废话
任何的不爽不快,
本作者不会做出任何的赔赏
谢谢!!

刚看到姐说 : 抱怨可以让我们的心大扫除, 让更多的, 能装得进..
很赞同, 所以我时常抱怨
因为我要不好的去掉, 好的统统进来....

突然很想家里面多个小孩
表哥表姐, 唯一的堂哥堂姐
"几时生个小贝比呢?"
喜欢抱着小小的他们, 小小的宝宝在怀里
温暖的, 可爱的, 单纯的......

脸上的面膜, 让我完全不能有任何的脸部动作
如果现在是在吉隆玻应该会被那三个朋友给气死
会反驳, 会生气, 会大笑个不停, 会忍不住张开嘴巴讲话
好想念那里, 但我更爱我的家

小强自从那天就没再出来了
希望他们永远都不要出现在我面前
要不然三更半夜的会把别人给吓醒
如果在我面前走过 ( 我看到了它, 最多我会跳起来或躲开而已)
如果他们要给我个惊喜
比方说, 一开灯就在我脚旁; 或在我头上飞
我发誓我的反应不止这样简单了

死党将去英国一年了
没有了他, 会很不同吧
七年了, 七年的朋友
虽然你很冷, 你很酷, 霎那间会说出大伙儿笑到不停的话
亲爱的你, 我还是会很想念你这位朋友的

一个月的假期, 又不能去做工
论文还没开始写, 死翘翘

上帝,
八月份是个很特别的月份
1. 我妈妈的生日
2. 我爸爸的忌日
3. 一个人的生日
4. 国庆日
5. 公公一百天忌日

我希望这八月, 大家可以和平, 和平再和平
我不想有任何的纷争
伤感情
不要把我最珍惜的朋友皆姐姐给夺走

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

dedicated to the special "you"

thank you for bringing this "sweet and special" memory to me tonight

thank you for making me double sure that i am not deserved to belong to this family

that i am WORTHLESS for you

that i am just a PIECE OF SHIT in your eyes

a BASTARD that just know how to spend your money all the time

you dont know

how TERROR i am in that situation

that i BEG you to come and help me,

yea, you came

and you scolded me for waking you up from your sleep

and not forget to do your nagging about how BAD i am as a daughter

then continue your sleep

i cried and cried and cried

hoping you will come and help me

FOUR COCKROACHES, in my room


you blame me for not cleaning my room as a result of that BUT


you know what?


those COCKROACHES came out from your boxes that you put inside my room!!


45mins i am on my bed, dont dare to move, and cried so loud


that i am sure you CAN listen


WELL


i guess you cant understand my feeling of

PHOBIA

PHOBIA to COCKROACHES !

dont mentioned about having FOUR there

your reaction tonight, i will not forget it

i understand i dont deserve anything from you

which i will FUCKING shut my mouth up

i will not argue with you like i used to be

i will just keep quiet

i wonder what you will do if it happens to another of your daughter

i am double sure,

your reaction will not be the same

you wont understand the terror.

as you wont understand me ever.









Monday, July 16, 2012

me, myself

Its 0121, everyone is in their warm attracting bed now, where this little mosquito is too full to sleep. Well, exam is finally over, year 3 semester 2 has now over,  6subjects and 2 more semesters is what i need, to complete the course. I am spending one more week in KL and make some plans before i have my long sem break in Klang.

I need to get some dress for my cousin's wedding in this coming November, have a short vacation in Genting with three of my best friends, spend some time with my friend which i can only see in September after this week, and a lot more. On and off i need to go to college to settle my thesis matter also.

Year 3, the final year, is a hectic and different year as compare to the previous one. All the super-brain power-consuming-assignments, interviews, thesis, writing, handle with people, are making me growing up. I feel myself behaving differently where i am no longer the clumsy, easily-frighten when there are issues happening (although sometimes i am still behaving like that...) but all this experiences are pushing me harder to another stage of life. I know it's quite late for me to realize this, especially classes in year 3 prone to let the students have their own set of thinking. Students no longer need to answer questions based on what the textbook mentioned, they need to analyse the situation critically, have their own set of values and thinking. Be matured, be critical.

In HELP, i met different kind of people. Thank God for this as i love having different races friends because i find the culture behind every ethnics are special and interesting. Their food, traditions, the NOs and YESs, their languages, their values.... I learn how to deal with people from different background, this has clear lots of my doubts and stereotypes towards other races. I used to be annoyed with things that i dont really understand, and people i dont know. However, once you get the chance to explore deeper into their tradition, you might change your mind.

I used to be a person that like to criticize people (i am still "practising" it today, a little), even before i know them. I cannot accept their style of actions. Hence, i learn to stand on their shoes, get to think and feel, the reasons behind it. I challenge myself to understand a friend of mine, where i cant understand why my friend always do things differently. Actually in this world, people are trying to protect themselves, as one of my friend always says :"the world is dangerous, pls go back to your Mars". We cant blame them for being defensive, rejecting, cold, and cruel sometimes. Perhaps they have a sad story behind? Perhaps they have gone through a hard time that we dont know? Different people different style, that's the amazing things of people. We cant find the exact same people in this world. Out of so many creatures, why God put all this people beside me? Faith, i guess...

2 more semesters, and i will be on my own feet, get into the society and start labouring myself. Its time to be seriously and consider about what i am going to do next. A degree in Psychology, a diploma in Social Science, a sincere heart to..... The future is so dark, so unclear, can i survive?

Recently my best friend just move in to her new house, and she is having a major issue - cockroaches !! Everyday she's hitting the cockroaches, dont know how many have died under her shoes. I am imagining, if its me and my roomate where we are facing this, all we can, and will do, will be screaming and shouting and running inside the house hoping other people can move the cockroaches away. My serious phobias to cockroaches, lizards, insects, furry cats that appeared suddenly, snakes, dirt, are getting serious. Through my friend's case, I know that i should be appreciating of what i am having now, instead of complaining. Because i have more, than what others are having now.

And recently, i got to know one of my primary school mate, that used to sit beside me during Standard One, got into an accident. He's in coma for a few months, after going through massive surgeries he finally woke up. But he lost the ability to move and talk. He's in the stage of recovering recently. I remember well about this friend, although we didnt contact each other after secondary school. His mother used to buy me coconut sweets, treated me well when i am small. I got so shock when i know he's in this current situation. My heart ache in pain with his pictures that lying on the wheelchair. Pray hard, sincerely, for him to recover.... That's life? One minute u are alive, another minute, perhaps, you are different with what you are now?  


Appreciate, and appreciate. 



Wednesday, July 4, 2012

College

There are two more semesters to go, and i will be officially graduate from HELP....

Two years time i have been here, from initially complain of wake up early everyday;

No class also need to purposely attend college to participate in experiments;

Hectic 1.5hours transportation per journey;

Cannot adapt to HELP campus life;

etc...

I start to enjoy my college life starting this semester.

I complain less, i rather to stay longer in college together with my friends.

I enjoy doing my thesis with my cute partner.

I like the stupid things we did in school...

I will definately miss all my college mates when we graduate,

Because i know it will be so hard since everyone of us will go to separate paths....

Sharon, Sharmilah, Belle, Nichole, Shyuan, Fish, Nev, James..

And many many new friends that i met lately~~

I cant imagine my life without you guys~~

People say, college is the time where friends can treat each other without having to consider and guard self..

Yeap, it's true...


Sunday, June 17, 2012

Samsung S Advance

After a few months of torturing with my w705,

Finally i got to have a new phone....

Samsung S Adavance a.k.a Samsung I9070

A bit unfamiliar with smartphone, but i guess i need time to adjust to it..

Feel so stress up when holding in my hand,

Afraid that it might drop on the floor anytime...


Friday, June 1, 2012

good friend


还好你没有说出那句话

要不然

我们连朋友都不是了

现在, 或许还可以是

谈心的

好朋友 ^^


Thursday, May 31, 2012

Regret


After the incident, i really doubt my capability of being a future psychologist.

Owning a diploma certificate in counseling, currently pursuing psychology degree

I cant even have the skills to handle

At the end, i bring harm to my friend

4 years involving in psychology, i still cant change my bad habits

Having this particular bad habit, which all along cause me multiple troubles

And today, the most serious one, happened...

Im so sorry my friend......

I have my night walk around my condo

I think and think and think

We do have choice, we know the consequences

And shall we enrol ourself in this?

Monday, May 28, 2012

Kedongdong, Revisited

Kedongdong - Revisited

roughly about two month before, i went to this place with my HELP Adventurous Club Pros. Two months after that, may be is some part of my unconscious mind want t have some extraordinary-me-activity, i decided to join the event with a group of people i dont know from facebook, except my brother.

wake up early morning around 6am, too bad my friend cannot make it last minute. I was so damn sleepy that morning because the night before i cant have a good sleep. Get into the car, have a McD breakfast at Melawati there, go to Rawang, and straight to Batang Kali.

Similary, we used 30-40 mins and we reach the peak. It is easy to climb, is is hard when coming down. But what's different from lastime is, we climb to the higher part. Being naughty, i went to the rushing water and i really not dare to go to that place anymore. Scary, almost flush away by the rushing water. Hold tight to the big stone and scream for help.

During the moment, i know quite some new people. Elena, a christian also, quite funny when she scream to an unknown guy saying "im admiring the view!!" when the guy notice we keep staring at him. It was another group of people and we dont know them at all. One of the indian guy reminds me of my friend... 4 of us, another two uncles are sitting with us. So we "gap zai", they "gap lui". Haha, we even use the DSRL and focus on them!! And when they notice us doing so, its kinda embarrassed haha, but its syoking qi gek and fun!! Bearing the consequences of being attacked of staring at people for like, 45mins i guess? haha and one of the uncle even ask me to go for that guy's number, so funny ^^ Ended up at the end, they stare at us from down, we stare to them from top!! And my friend actually took picture with them. Which one of the guy really attracts my attention ^^



When going down, its difficult for me. I suggest to go first because i know my speed will cause slowness to others, some more many of them are pros. i scratch my legs, my favourite pant got one hole because of the duri, and my hand without looking at the tree trunk and i just grab it, kena duri also T.T luckily not that pain. The scary thing is the leeches... Brother said its just a small leech, but that one can cause certain amount of fright to me already T.T

I was so regret of buying this stupid shoes. I will not wear it again to climbing. Guess i need to get a pair of good hiking shoes with appropriate price soon.

After all the falling and scratching, finally we reach our initial place. My OCD are causing me to feel uncomfortable in the toilet, so i just simply wash away the dirt and change a new clothes. Our next destination is Hulu Tamu Hot Spring, which is like half an hour from Batang Kali. The people that went down to the water, their legs are pink in colour. One of the girl even immerse her whole body inside the water, when she sat beside me i can feel her body high temperature. Elena said her pulse are fast, guess she's in high BP already haha....

Sit down and crap, then we went for our teatime in Ulu Yam. 14 of us, 2 tables, 6 dishes in every table, how to finish? Fried mihun, a plate of vegetables, steam lala, loh mee, fried fish cake and, one dishes that looks like turtle. When i go back and google the image, i feel like vomit out my "teatime". Cant believe i just eat that T.T But its a good experience for me la haha ^^

Driving back, four of us are so tired and exhausted. Pity brother still need to drive so long, an hour or so. I have a nice sleep in the car.

"We cannot judge people from their cover". This is indeed, very true. From this hiking i learn alot of things, because all the while my stereotype of tattoo-ed person, either they are bad people or people with weird personality. However, one of the uncle, he's easily approach and funny person, a christian also, i have no problem communicating with him. That's society, by labelling others make them superior. From now on, i guess this stereotype will drop! ^^

Dare or not? Once i found the charity event, that's when i will do the thing. Its not easy, but i will challenge myself.

Like the experience of hiking already (the easy one for beginners first), like the feeling of succeed, like the feeling of tiredness and sleep soundly after that. ^^

cant believe the girl bhind me is nearly 30yrs old!! even married to the guy beside!! i thought she's still college students ^^

the spirit of little ant~~




very pretty flower ^^




* this week should be the deadline-week.How come in my mind is all the thoughts of having fun?
* credit to brother for his pics!! ^^


Saturday, May 26, 2012

when you and your friend are complaining love not gonna last long

and did you think why this keep happen to u?

instead of letting yourself down with alcohol

why not trying to figure out the problem?

or else,

this cycle will be repeating all over again.


Monday, May 14, 2012

close | not close?

After that incident, 

i become very afraid of being close with people

wif family, wif friends,

new friends especially, no matter close or not close friends

because im scare, one day

we will become not close or ended up in cold war or arguments again

which im so tired now

seems like i need to learn

how to be alone without human


Thursday, May 10, 2012

我们家 | 一家之主



坐在前往吉隆玻的巴士上
一幕幕的往事, 在脑海里像电影般的,
又再播出
看着窗外的风景,
眼泪也不知觉的流了出来

在我的印象中
爷爷是我们大家庭的首领
是一家之主
犹记得小时候
爷爷开着车
载着我们到附近的书店兼杂货店
鼓励我们买书来看
然后我们这些小不点儿很开心的翻开那些书
爷爷, 是个注重教育的人
常常会给我们零用钱
去买书来看
或用在大学方面
那, 是大约十五年前的事了

当时, 我, 二叔的两个孩子, 和小姑的三个孩子
我们六人 (比较大的孙子)
与爷爷比较有交流
可能小的时候, 天真无邪
那时爸爸和爷爷的关系也没这么礓
很感谢爷爷给了我们这么美好的回忆
相比之下, 现在那些比较小的
就比较少可以和爷爷一起出外的机会了

小时后, 每当成绩出炉
好的成绩爷爷也会有奖赏呢
小时后, 在爷爷房间的行李箱上玩游戏
爷爷也不会生气
那天与表姐重温
看回我们当时跳来跳去的行李箱上
还在想我们那时一定很小只
为什么那么狭窄的空间
我们还可以通过?
我们竟然可以玩得那么的开心

爷爷, 是个性格屈强的长辈
凡是自己可以完成的
决不会麻烦他人
所以, 八十六岁高龄
还可以天天载着奶奶出去
衣服自己洗
直到生命的最后一天
也坚持不入院

星期四下午, 心里突然很想去爷爷家,
也不知哪来的一股冲动
去买了两杯凉茶给他们
刚进门, 两老在客厅看戏
爷爷还中气十足的与我谈话
只是那时候, 我万万都没想到,
竟然是
最后的一次的谈话
话毕, 爷爷就关上门
午觉去
平时,就算是在房间
他的门也是打开的
那天,好像是一个暗示
永别了,的暗示

爷爷拜五去世,我们仪式进行了五天才结束
这葬礼,联系了,不止大人们之间的感情
也拉近了我们十三个孙子的感情
因为彼此住的比较远,有些一年只见一次面
所以很疏远,不了解对方
在那五天里,从日对到夜
是从所未有的
大家的互动,让我们暂时放下悲伤
其实呢,整体的葬礼有点不大对劲

三个道士 - 主角- 二婶称他为 “大肥” (他真的很高大)
一个是吹喇叭的 (我们孙子说吹太多了所以这么瘦)
最后一个,我超级超级讨厌的 “矮仔” 
仪式正在进行,我们都在跪着
他拿着电话坐在我们前面的椅子上玩游戏,
手向左向右摆,脸上还有表情
有一天他还问我们有没有电话的充电器
我们孙一致说没有,
哼,就是不要让他玩电话
他还说,nokia 这么好的电话,
你们竟然没有人用啊?

最后第二天,我们决定偷拍他玩电话的照片放上网
因为真的很愤怒了
这让我想到,小的时候我们几个大孙的顽皮事
没想到几十年后还有机会干这种事哈哈
可气的是,不知是不是他听到了
那一次的仪式很乖的坐在那里敲他的鼓
表弟们也不正经的,拿着香跟着道士敲木鱼的节奏摇
让我们边跪边忍着笑,
加上矮仔的表情
就连大人们也忍不住偷笑
爷爷是个很严肃的人
我看当时他应该气得很想从棺材里跳出来教训我们了

最后一天,出殡那一天,
我们都知道不可以玩玩了
每个都很正经
扶着爷爷的灵车走一段路时心很痛
我们都哭了
看爷爷最后一面时,姑姑叔叔婶婶们眼睛都红红的

两个姑丈的礼服
是一大片半透明的白布,长到要到脚底了,
腰绑着白布条,斜披上红布条在肩上
一顶白色的大帽子
我们坐着公司提供的巴士到墓地
可是道士说女婿们必须站上罗里后面
那是开放式的罗里,放着两个白色灯笼柱子
罗里后面只有两位和两个灯笼
想像看,路途遥远,山路又摇来摇去的
风吹着白礼服, 随风飘扬
两位衣着特出的姑丈,站着后面,
会引来多少人的注意呢?
加上太阳这么的猛烈,他们一定很辛苦了
当他们换上这礼服时,我也忍不住笑了

昨晚,二婶告诉我
爷爷去世前几天很想念他的大孙宏
二婶说如果当时爷爷打电话来
她一定会让他儿子从新加玻回来
也说他最疼三个大孙
当二婶说我是其中一位
眼泪又留了出来
曾今何时,我曾怨恨过爷爷
直到最近这一年来才慢慢放下仇恨
知道他们都老了,也开始关心两老
试着与他沟通
我曾以为,他很讨厌我
因为他对我说过的一句话
那一句话,也引来爸爸与他的大风爆
他曾对姑姑说他后悔说过这一句话
我也没想到,我在他老人家心里
还占有一席

爷爷这一生, 辛苦了~
我, 也不再怨恨您了
您的教导, 我会永记在心!!




大人们还好奇, 一下子孙怎么都不见了, 原来
躲在房里面拍照了
这是我们这么久以来
完整的
爷爷的孙的照片


无端端杯砸碎了的表姐车
这么多的车, 为什么是她的被打碎?


我们大家都曾因为爷爷的去世而哭过
就是没有在大伙儿在的时候哭
他人可能觉得我们很不正经
我们也不理会他人怎么看
最重要的是, 我们内心对爷爷的挂念还是有的
不放在表面, 也不让大人们担心

Thursday, May 3, 2012

April and May

Exam period - 19-25th apr 2012


This semester, i took 3 subjects:
a. Psychology of Eating ( which i never miss one lecture, although its 8am class)
b. Abnormal Psychology ( which im very interested of)
c. Gender & Health ( where the lecturer is in my xxx list now)

This semester, i went back TARC and able to study in the study room. Im an ex-student there, the way i went in is like a thief. Haha but its ok, one month later after i obtain my alumni card, i will be able to use the facilities there, especially the library!! One interesting issue when me and my HELP friend discovered a HELP Law student girl also doing her revision in the study room!! So coincidence right?

One day before the Abnormal paper, due to extreme stress, plus a Sarawak friend are visiting us in KL, we went for dinner and movie in Wangsa Walk.

My last paper is one 8am 25/05/2012, Psychology of Eating, which is an open book paper. Immediately after the paper end, i went to KLCC and bought my favourite Auntie Annie bread. On the way back, this is my first time where i sat the wrong train, to the wrong direction. Suppose to go back Wangsa lrt, but when i open my eyes, i was in Pasar Seni!! My plan of going back condo and bath and pack things failed, at the end waiting for my friend in Wangsa lrt station, we are going to Genting!! yay!! The plan is a sudden plan also, where i called two of my friend the night before the paper, because im so desperately to go out and enjoy the fresh air after the exams~~

We drove to Genting, due to exhaustion and sleep depletion several nights before, i slept in the car. Genting is not that cold, but still windy and colder than KL. Bought out park ticket, have our dinner in Marybrown, and drove back at the night. Our friend drove with extreme speed, which i tried to control myself from shouting everytime he made a sharp turn. Slept soundly on that night.


Kaixuan ^^

27/04/2012 - Avengers


Wow this is a very great movie, like it like it!! 


Feeling after exam: Although it has ended, however, the stress and the "tight" feelings are still there. I know it's really hard for me to get good results in this third year, and i will work harder this time!!  I never have this kind of feel where, everytime i walk out from the hall, i have no confidence in passing the paper. Especially for the Gender and Health paper, the damn marks i got, i think i gonna repeat the paper in the next semester. 

428 Bersih 3.0


Yay!! This is the day i have been waiting for. A day before, i went to Dataran Merdeka with my brother to "selidik" the surrounding. I thought it's only a simple walking but, ended up listening to some lawyers about human rights in Malaysia. It reminds me of those gathering during the 40 and 50's, where people sat down on the floor, listening to the leader's talk about politics and all that^^

On that day itself, i woke up early and prepared everything that we might need - towel, 2 bottles of water, salt, clean clothes to change and earplug. Was waiting for a friend to wake up, and all of us almost leave together from different places. Me and Faizi from Wangsa lrt, Yeewei from KLCC, Rayson and his friend Leong from Ampang, brother and his colleague Xian from Bukit Jalil. We said we will be meeting in McDonald in Masjid Jamek, but it took me half and hour to gather all of us due to the extreme large crowd. 

Actually we are taking risk because we don't know whether KLCC and Masjid Jamek lrt will be closed or not. And thank God, it still open. Once i get down from lrt, i cant describe the moment when i saw the crowd.. Its not a normal crowd, its thousands and hundred thousands of human with yellow and red shirts on, singing our national songs, shouting slogans and phrases. 

Its a "duduk-bantah" protest, but due to the overcrowded, we have no place to sit. Malay, Chinese, Indian and other races and Westerners also, together we gathered as one unity, to fight for our rights. There are no races difference, we talk to each other even though we don't know each other. I witness baby and young children lost during the run, and there are people that shout " anak hilang" everywhere and not long after that, the parents came and get back their children. This is one thing, why bring small kids to this kind of gathering. It is so dangerous especially when the tear gas are shot. 

When the police shot the tear gas, luckily we are standing behind, but the effect is enough for me to cry already haha. The crowd infront they are just running without direction, everyone is running, i was so terrified standing there. While running, i have to get the towel where i find it useless without water on it (wet towel). Luckily my brother and my friends are there, to assist us to reach the safe place. But i learn something, the more you run, the more you inhale, and the more you will feel the pain in your eyes, nose, and throat. Quickly i rinse my face with water, and have some salt from some kind people there. This is it, although people dont know each other, they provide help such as giving water and salt after the tear gas to unknown people.

In between, police launched more and more tear gas. Faizi was separated with us, for like one hour plus. I call several times and we went to one place and waited for him but due to the damn tear shot on that place, we cant find him. After that, i cant reach his phone, and we are worried that he has been under arrested by the force. We remembered that initially, we used to mention, if we are separated, we can wait for each other in Mcdonald. Good to find him there after that, when he said his phone was snatched by the police i got shock.

He was taking a video of police hitting a guy, the police ask him to delete all the pictures, when he was deleting the pictures and video the police just took his phone away. This is a NO NO because as according to law, police have no rights to take your phone or cameras because this is our belongings. But what to do, its hard to get it back now. 

Having our dinner in KFC near Pudu, Brother, Xian, Me, Yeewei and Faizi. Enjoy the meal so much because i was so hungry after all the walking for the whole day. On our way back, i met Aunty Ooi, mum's friends and also our old neighbour in Batu Belah. Its been years since i saw them, 10 years i think. Glad that she still remember me. When i reach home, its already 8 something. Tired, and sleept early that day.

In this few days time, facebook and youtube have shown lots and lots of videos of the day, especially how cruel the police force treat the citizen. As a democracy country, as a civilized country, how on earth you police do this to the people? Even if one is being arrested, there are ways to arrest him, not by kicking and hitting ! And its been done by a gang of police towards one citizen. Secondly, why the reporters are being hit? I saw the newspaper that the police claimed that they not sure he is a reporter and by taking away the phones or cameras its for their own safety. Do you think its a valid and rational reasons to provide? Even the reporter show the pass to the police, they still hit him. This is unacceptable. Reporters risk their life, go to dangerous places, in a war in Iraq too, to bring out the latest happenings in that particular areas. Thirdly, why the police wanna snatch people's phones and cameras? Why? And i know you know the reasons.

Their acts, have created awareness not only in our society, but also in oversea as well. The news are well published in Japan and BBC news and other countries. IS THIS A CORRECT MOVE ON THE WAY WE ARE BEING TREATED?? The capability and profession of the force are being doubted. 

this is just a part of it.....



the overturn police car



I was so shocked when i saw a police car just crash the crowd without brake. That time i saw something fly over. But after viewing the videos, the police that drove, before hitting the crowd, his windows have been smashed, perhaps he cannot see the front view and crash, and i do hope this is the reason. 


1/05/2012 


Woke up 5.20am in the morning. Its labour's day today, ride a KTM and met brother in Kelana Jaya station. Went to Damansara and fetch 3 little kids, and here we go, Zoo Negara!! Few days before when a friend said wanna go, i said zoo is for small children, and smelly somore... I also doubt myself why i will go haha, perhaps little kids will cheer me up ^^ Because they reminds me of the freedom to talk without limits? Because i can feel free without negative thoughts when i was with them? I guess it is.

Sighz~ So damn regret for forgetting to bring my cap, ended up walking under the sun for hours. After the Bersih and the zoo, my skin tone is so pathetic. But i gain a lot in this and not that regretting by the way haha ^^. Having our Pizza lunch in Melawati, 3 regular pizza for 2 adults and 3 children, break my record!! ^^ On the way back, we went to One Utama. Finally i got my Q Bean icecream!! My favourite icecream!!! Craving it for quite some time, too bad it didnt have franchise in the malls near my place, if not i sure go for it every week haha. 


It is made up of soya bean, very thick, thank to brother for introducing !! ^^ 

So tired and sleep a while in my mum youngest's sister's house. Having dinner in her house also. Around 8pm, we leave and brother fetch me back to Puchong. Decided to stay a night in my dad's youngest sister's house, and have a good talk with my aunt that day. Which reminds me that the issues that i think is serious that bother me so much, if compared to others, its only a tiny minnie issues. I really feel grateful that she trust me and told me all those things. 

The next day, aunt fetch me and waited the bus with me. She is a great mother, where in her whole life she spent all the effort of taking care of her family. I can feel the love that she provided to her children, haha even my own mum also i doubt that. Its not easy to handle all the downs, but with her cheerful personality, she still manage to go through that.. Jiayou my dear aunt!!!

Sis will be going taiwan this weekend, hope she has a nice and safe trip!!!

And for myself, i feel so free in my soul during my days in Klang, so peace.... Without all the issues, peace everyday here.... 

Was planning to throw some trips for myself, with other friends and family that i seldom spent time with. ^^



Wednesday, May 2, 2012

A different life



Bcz i wan to live a different life

That's all i need

I dont want to stuck in this current life

And i will make a difference 

My dreams~~

I will work hard to reach it!

Although it may seems impossible

Because

This is the only way to 

Attain a better life 

For me

n

for u as well~~


Thursday, April 26, 2012

爬山记

爬山记

前一个礼拜, 上课上到一半
隔壁的懵小姐问本小姐要不要去爬山
日期是大考前的一个星期
考虑了一天, 终于决定报名参加
本以为会很后悔
因为本人不是那种户外活动一分子
加上第一次跟学校 Adventures Club 的精英一起参与
很是压力
压力什么呢
压力爬不上
压力会不会掉下山波
压力会不会被水淹死

前一晚疯狂的答应了要去看戏
11.30pm 的电影,搞到凌晨 3am 才入睡
隔天,就是今天早上 5.20am 就起身了
有点晕晕的,可能几天了都不够睡
但还是强逼自己起身,
因为
就是
要爬山咯
很困很困的搭了火车巴士到学校
本说 7am 出发,结果呢
9am 才出发
等你等他等大家,等这个等那个
我和懵小姐都在埋怨,
就是嘛,睡眠很重要嘛

总人数共 35 人,
女人 - 11人
男人 - 24人
马来西亚华人 - 4人
中国华人 - 2人
Negro - 3人
还有马来西亚的印度人
印度的印度人
参种人有几个
还有其他我不知道也记不了的别的国属朋友们

一路上很热闹,印度朋友占较多
所以他们在巴士上跳舞
印度人就是印度人
跳舞的细胞就是与生俱来的
很搞笑,很好玩
我们去的地方是 Batang Kali Kedongdong Waterfall
很靠近云顶,我们到的时候
气候冷冷的,很是舒服
巴士有几次爬不上,换牙时待在原地不动
怕怕的,怕它会滑下去
我们就糟了

担心被抛弃在后面
我们就跟在领队后面,
我是前第五个呢
用了大约半小时到达瀑布
一路上左下方都可以看到瀑布水流
地上很是潮湿,很滑很滑
有几次都滑倒了,深怕真的会掉下石头瀑布哪里呢
这是个竹林,生平第一次看到长得这么高这么大的竹
不会很难爬,只要安稳的爬过石头就可以了

到了瀑布,整个人都轻松下来了
瀑布有的地方很深
有几次,真的,沉了下去
越沉越深,喝了几口水
朋友以为我会游泳,在玩水
但是不是不是不是
我是真的不会打直的浮在水里的
水很冷,上来过后的一小时身体都是冰冷的
在瀑布旁边吃派来的椰浆饭,
可能是肚子太饿了,很是好吃
Commander 他们在那里生火
煮炒鸡蛋和快速面
泡咖啡
真香

看看快要下雨了
我们七个人和 commander 先下山
一下子就下毛毛雨了
越来越大了,
路途中,过小河时有滑倒
一个朋友,如果迟一秒钟过那小河
上面的,又大又粗的竹子们,
突然就这样倒了下来
还有 sound effect
加上朋友的喊叫声
朋友真是幸运
到了山下,很有成就感呢
但是,整身都湿嗒嗒的
衣服稍微扭一下就有雨水留下
懒惰再换第二次就直接回家
路上还真是累人呢

这次最大的收获,就是发现了我自己从来没有留意的
我的勇气
怎么会有那股力量来让我完成整段旅程呢
当跨过一段又一段滑滑的泥浆路
和石头路,小河
就是深呼吸,就跨过了
希望这股勇气,能让我面对生活中的大大小小的难题!





Tuesday, April 10, 2012

“一” 之距离


“一” 之距离

那该死的距离,竟然可以达到如此多样话

一条马路的距离
一辆火车的距离
一辆巴士的距离
一趟电梯的距离
一年的距离
一分钟的距离
甚至是,
一秒钟的距离

可笑的是
那一秒钟所发生的事情
其实
可以带来很大的变化

如果,我迟些上那辆该死的巴士
如果,我走得慢一点
往往常常发生的那“一” 之距离
就不再是距离了。。。

Sunday, April 8, 2012

这世界


我们都活在一个花花世界里
曾经想过,我为什么要被生在这世界里
没曾存在过
不需要强逼自己过每一天都不快乐的生活
不需要经历人- 那么丰富的情感
不需要时常担心及兼顾他人的感受
不需要为任何一件事物付出任何的一丝动作
那为什么,上天要让我活着

最近看着 “成均馆绯闻” 
里面的对话,终会让我想很多。
现在的小孩,小小年纪就被父母送去
各式各样的培育中心
小小年纪就懂得,人有输赢之分
要享有赢者所得的荣耀
就必须付出努力去争取

我时常埋怨,读书很辛苦
一堆堆的功课,压力,搞得我精神睽睽的
殊不知有多少人吩望得到我所拥有的。。
戏中,古代一女子为了家庭,也为了学问
男扮女装进入了只有男生才能进入的学堂。。
她展现了那份不可思议的努力
努力地学习,就算没能得到大人的应许和鼓励
她还是抱着不放弃的学习态度
单单这点,就让我非常惭愧

我们这群幸福的小孩,
得到的太容易了
从小在应有尽有的环境下长大
我们,可曾想过,外边蹲在马路边
与我们同龄的孩子,
他们过的,
又是怎样的生活?
我们埋怨,甚至叛逆,
就为了不想读书了
我们付了那么昂贵的学费
结果就旷课,钓鱼,
常常做最后一分钟的功夫
我们太幸福了
这样对得起给予我们教育费的父母吗?
古代的,那些没能去学堂接受正统教育的
最后也成为伟大思想家的成功者们
我们,是不是该躲在桌子下反省了。。。

埋怨,解决不了问题
只能增加负内情绪而以
倒不如用那份力量想想解决方案
及能如何能变得更好,
让我们所做的能成功呢?
学习,不是应该打开思想
把身边所见所闻,用一颗真诚的学习心态
来把它给吸收

钱财,只会得到别人表面的尊重
高尚的人格,以及与海一样深的学问
才会是别人对你的
真正的尊重。




Saturday, April 7, 2012

My Week 13

My Week 13

The major event in this week, is PSY 314 Psychology of Eating "Eating Behavioural Modification" 's deadline.
It is quite different with other assignments,
Which due date's is around week 8-10.
I guess, it's the intention of them for providing us more time,
To come out with better quality work...
This is a capped subject,
The moment i saw the name listm
Students in the class is just around 38ppls....
Compared to other class, which amount can be more than hundreds
It creates more stress for me to produce the best work....
Because the tutor and lecturer can easily notice you...

Hence, i use the whole week to complete the assignment.....
Procrastination too, i start it quite late,
A few weeks before deadline....

This whole week, i burn a lot of midnight oil
slept at 2 to 3am initially,
Until the last two days, 4.30 in the morning...
I stay in my friend's house on Thursday night to have better concentration
Kinda enjoy the house there...
3 peoples in 3 rooms in a 3-storey house
How good is that ^^

Until my friend went to sleep, 
There is only me alone who occupied the whole living room....
Very cold, kinda scary also...
My neck is so stiff, due to the constant unmove-position..
I fell so relax when i slept on the bed
Cant remember when i slept, but i know it's very soon.....
Wake up at 7am, around 2 hours plus of sleep,
With a very very tired body i arrive at college and hand in the assignment...

The great episode is here.
I saw the name list, 3 columns - Names, Student's signiture (sign when u throw ur work piece into the pigeon hole), and "Assigned by".....
I thought the "Assigned by" needs the signature of tutors to proof that i hand in on time
So i went inside and all the tutors are confused...
And suddenly my tutor came from behind and said
" U r looking for me"......
Initially i thought is students because he was in his black T and a backpack... Haha...

Then he explained that he will sign it later when he check the assignments, not during now...
He looked so strict because the day before,
I emailed him about the doubts i have
And he was annoyed with my last-min-attitude..
But it wasn't!! i wasn't start it late,
But i didnt argue with him also....
Before i shut the door, he smile and said
"Aiyor, first time hand in assignments meh haha"...

That time, i really really really hope that he n fellow tutors got MEMORY LOST
Forget what i did.....
So sad and so embarrassing!!!
PLus im the first one who hand in, 
I cant see what other people did
How should i know what should i know with that column which i never encountered before??

Taking a train back to Klang
Its a new KTM~~
Met up with JL in Subang station
And we went movie with Tong in Bukit Raja...
A friend message me when im going to hand in the paper,
I said im in Klang already,
She said she's still finding printing shop, 
And quite sure im going out d.. and yea, she's right haha!!

Watching "We Not Naughty", although me and JL are so sure we want to watch Clash of the Titans...
But, we still lose to Tong and change to that movie....

Now, i will have my finals in a week time...
Really want it to go over fast...